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I am a mother of a beautiful son and daughter, a full time worker for a mortgage company and a musician on the side playing piano and organ for local churches/schools/professional groups. I also have a wonderful husband who is a stay at home dad (a.k.a. SAHD)!

Monday, November 17, 2008

Changes

These days Nathan has been giving us the worst attitude and saying no to almost everything. He never went through the terrible two's and has always been very compliant. But now, he's like a different boy and is capable of lying to us. If I ask him if he spilled water all over the place, he would say no and say either I made the mess or nobody did. It's interesting to note how this sinful behavior is not taught and is naturally ingrained in them. Also, meal time has been stressful as he's been playing with his food and not eating....I've lost it a few times with him and yelled/screamed at him. I feel guilty about not setting a good example to him. I'm actually kind of glad to be going back to work this Wednesday, but I also feel guilty about being glad to go back to work...shouldn't I want to stay home with my children like some Christian conservatives say I should be doing and let the husband work? I know some people, like my parents, judge us and think our family situation is not normal and Dan should be working while I stay home. But this is what works in our family and we're satisfied with our situation. But there are some days where I feel like I'm a terrible mom for working and not staying home with them.

One great thing that happened in the last month is that Nathan is now fully potty trained at night! For 5 nights straight, his pullups were completely dry without any prompting from us. We were shocked as we were expecting him to be wearing pullups/diapers at night for a while because everybody says that boys are slow. But he's been accident free and either holds it in at night or goes to the bathroom by himself in the middle of the night. It was cute hearing him the first time get up, turn on the light, go pee, flush the toilet, wash his hands, turn off the light and climb back into his bed. We're very thankful that this transition was so easy and that we didn't have to do anything. Now that this last "baby" phase is done, we have to do it all over again with Kaitlyn!

3 Comments:

Blogger RBK said...

That's really cute about Nathan going pee by himself in the middle of the night. Good for him!
Don't worry, Nathan's just going through a phase... probably related to having a little sister that he realizes is here to stay. And you are a GREAT mom! Don't beat yourself up over what others think of your situation. You guys are doing what you think is best for your family. No one should tell you otherwise.

11/18/2008 11:17 AM  
Blogger Soo said...

So nice Nathan is trained at night. Caleb was dry for a month in his pull ups. As soon as we left him in his underwear, he would have some accidents some nights. Don't feel bad about wanting to work and not be home with the kids. Not everyone is in the same situation or things work the same with everyone. I think I am a better mom for working. I do miss Caleb and Jonathan but I know this is what our family has to do and it works... although expensive. Nathan is probably acting out more because of Kaitlyn. It is normal... sibling rivarly. Caleb plays with his food and lies all the time too. I have many of times when I have lost my temper and yelled at him. The other day I did and felt bad that I apoligized to Caleb and asked for his forgiveness. Hang in there! It is tough... especially with lack of sleep! Caleb has even been saying some hurtful things lately to Josh like, "I hate you daddy" (usually because he doesn't get what he wants). I always say, "where to they learn that" then realize it is all original sin!

12/10/2008 6:52 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Merry Christmas to the Cho family! It's been so nice to follow the blog and to see Nathan and Kaitlyn grow up... God bless you all! Love in Christ, Mia

12/24/2008 4:22 PM  

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